10 ways to help you build self-confidence

Are you the type of person who lacks self-confidence? Are you afraid to speak up your mind? 

Are you afraid to stand up for yourself? Are you afraid of being rejected? 

If you say yes to one or more questions above then you need to improve your self-confidence.

How can I boost my self-confidence? In this article, we are going to learn about several ways you can do to make your confidence stronger so you can get what you want in life. 

You have to remember that building self-confidence takes a process and it does not happen overnight. You may have to go through trials and errors in order to finally replace that mindset. 

Don’t worry about screwing up when trying those tips. You just need to learn and adapt from your mistakes to boost your self-confidence.

Here are the top 10 ways to help you build self-confidence.

1. Think that failure means nothing

Have you ever thought of asking a girl out on a date? 

How about asking for a raise? 

A lot of self-confidence problems are coming from fears. Yup, it is your fear that prevents you from doing what you really want in life. 

But worry not! There are tricks to make you become confident. Before I give you that trick please answer this question. 

What happens if (insert your fear here). Let’s say you type: “What happens if the girl rejects me?” is that the end of the world? 

Do you get bruises or lost your money because a girl rejects you? No right? You are still fine. The world still goes round. Nothing will happen. 

Rejection is a part of life. If a girl rejects you it means that you are too good for her. Now you can save energy to find another girl that is better for you.

2. Ask yourself this question “what if…?”

When you have a self-confidence problem you might think the worse in everything. “What if I get fired?”, “What if she hates me for this?” etc. 

These thoughts will prevent you from doing anything. Remember that there are 2 possibilities in life. It is either you get it or you won’t get it. 

Next time you find yourself thinking about your negative self-talk just rephrase “What if” thoughts in positive ways. 

For example: replace “what if my boss won’t give me a raise?” thought with “What if my boss gives me a raise?” you get the idea. 

By changing negative self-talk with positive talks can give your confidence a boost.

3. Stop for a moment and take a deep breath

You don’t need to force yourself to be assertive and courageous. Sometimes it is okay to do it even if you are trembling. 

Let yourself relax by taking a deep breath before doing something that can challenge your confidence. 

After taking a deep breath do what you need to do and remember it is not about if you fail or not, it is about being confident and doing what you need to do.

4. Prepare yourself and practice often

If you are going to do something that can exert your self-confidence energy, it is advisable for you to practice beforehand. Prepare yourself to face that big interview by practicing with your friend time and time again. 

If you are afraid of dating you can read books about dating to upsurge your confidence. You can practice by saying “Hi” to strangers or your cute neighbor accompanied with a smile.

The point of this practice is that if you prepare yourself better you will feel more confident when facing the real thing. You will also have less worry about what you will do next and focus more on the moment.

5. Do the things that you procrastinate to do

Procrastination can affect your confidence in a negative way since the more you procrastinate the more worthless you will feel and it translates into poor self-confidence.

Get up every morning and start the daily exercise that you have postponed for a long time. Clean your room and start trying that recipe you’ve been longing to cook.

If you finally do the things you should be doing you will feel the surge in your self-confidence and you will feel happy within yourself. This will affect your self-confidence in a good way.

6. Adjust your dress properly

There is an old saying which goes that in order to achieve something you have to fake it until you make it. 

This is what will happen if you dress confidently. The dress code you wear combined with your posture can impact your self-confidence.

7. Get rid of negative influences in your life

Being confident is cool but surrounding yourself with negativity is not. You can only decrease your self-confidence more if your life revolves around toxic people, bad news, friend drama, etc. 

You have to get rid of them or at least limit your interaction with them as they can suck the joy and confidence out of you. Your life doesn’t need to be bombarded with drama. 

It is hard to be a successful person if you are surrounded by people who tell you why you can’t do it. Life is short and you don’t want to waste your life with someone else’s toxicity.

8. Do and try new things

To help you boost self-confidence you can get out there to try new things. Go join that art class, go take that singing audition, and try to face something that you are afraid to do and see the result. 

You would be surprised by the result! Somehow it wasn’t that bad and it is not like what you think. The more you try something new the more self-confidence you gain.

9. Quit or at least limit social media usage

If there is one thing that can destroy your self-confidence without you realizing it, it is social media. There are numerous studies that proved that social media affects us negatively. 

It will make you compare yourself with other people’s life. Have you ever seen a post about your friend’s vacation at the beach? 

What do you feel? You wish you are also like them right; to be able to experience the joy in life and have a perfect life just like in social media. 

The thing is none of them are real. Social media is far from reality and people only post what others want to see. So you only see the higher reels of their life. 

You don’t know what their life is really like. Most of them are only looking for attention to get likes and thumb-ups.

Deactivate your social media and don’t let yourself get sucked into the rabbit hole of comparing yourself to other people online. Your self-confidence will increase.

10. Have a proper self-care

If you are the type of person who puts other people’s needs over yours, then it is time for you to change that. You need to practice self-care and put your need first. It is not an act of selfishness. 

You are putting your needs above others and nothing is wrong with it. Don’t get me wrong. It is not about being selfish. 

It is about helping your need first before helping others need. If you practice self-care you will give your confidence a boost.

Other than that you need to take care of your body and mind by eating healthy, exercising, and get adequate sleep. A healthy body and mind impact your self-confidence.

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